So aunty this girl who I'm really into is giving me mixed signals like a mother. One day we can talk for hours on end and the next not at all. And the. The next pick up where we left off. It's frustrating cause I try and visit her as often as I can. She lives in riverside and goes to work in DT LA at some Yoga studio called HOT 8 Yoga. But she has yet to visit me. And I live in San Diego. What should I do? I wanna commit but not if its all flakey and shit. But yet she want my babies -_-
You should totally tell her. Especially about the visiting you thing. I mean, San Diego is a kind of a hike from LA but if you bring it up perhaps you’ll get your answer to that: does she not have the time? the gas $? Maybe she just doesn’t feel like it.
But I feel you on the flaky shit. Those mixed signals drive me bonkers and I honestly just don’t have the patience for it anymore. But you must address it before completely moving on. She can’t read your mind. Next time you’re both chillin comfortably, suggest she visit you sometimes and have that ‘what are we doing’ talk. It doesn’t have to be all pressure’y and weird. Shit yawl are grown and if you’re fucking around and she occasionally gives the impression that she’s super into you……ask her wassup! What are you looking for? Are you dating around right now? Are we just chilling or are we going somewhere…… Once you get your answers, you can decide if it’s worth investing in or not…..
Hey so I wanted to know your opinion on this, I'm a senior in high school and I've never really gotten attention from any guys, I'm not ugly, but I'm not sexy, or have amazing clothes or hair that draws people to me. My sister gets a lot of attention because of her really nice body and big butt and she sometimes talks about how annoying it is to have guys approach her, but I feel like I wouldn't mind that. Is it bad that I want attention from boys, and I want to be noticed? How can I get it?
Heck no it’s not bad. You’re a developing young woman. You remind me of my younger sister. When we were about your age she struggled to try to get the boys attention and I was getting more attention than I really wanted. The real issue was she had very low self esteem and I did everything I could to lift her spirits. Eventually when she changed her attitude and cranked up her confidence she was beating the boys off with a bat.
It doesn’t hurt to try a few things to turn up your swag a little bit. Think outside the box and try something not so ‘safe’. A new hair style or color, add a few new different things to your wardrobe…..you’re not trying to walk around looking like a complete whore but maybe add something fly and dope your current style. Have your sister help you! Shit you could even start with her closet. You’re not trying to be her, still you, just explore your own style because it sounds like haven’t really discovered what yours is yet.
Boys/men are visual creatures. When they like what they see and how it’s presented, they respond. If you start to really like what you see in the mirrow and carry yourself well with a enough confidence to light up a room….you’ll see a change.
Chokes whats good! So I was having a conversation with some friends and they pretty much told me that every woman should have a hoe phase. They feel as though experience would be gained from this and make her a better woman -_- How do you feel about that?
Hmmm. I somewhat agree. Although, everything ain’t for everybody and sex isn’t much of a priority for every woman, so how exactly would they benefit from a lot of casual sex? I think that depends on the woman’s moral standards and sex drive.
I get the point, and believe me, knowledge is surely gained through experiencing a ‘hoe phase’……it’s just not for everyone.
Hey chokes! So I'm graduating college in december and even though I am happy to done with this part of my life I'm kinda not feeling moving back home with a family. In the summer something happen to break my trust and since then I haven't been the same with this person. So the question is do I bring it up or find somewhere else live because I'm not sure I can live with someone I can't trust even though I got love for them I can't see it changing anytime soon.
Hey there! I’d suggest getting your own spot if you’ll be in the financial position to do so by the time you graduate. I found out some unsettling things about my family not too long ago as well that make me uncomfortable and my trust with most of them is gone. When I found out I was already living on my own but it definitely helped me to make some decisions. I considered moving back home at one point but knowing I couldn’t handle living with my family again, I decided against it. It really saddens me that things aren’t what I always knew them to be. Hurts quite a bit.
Unfortunately, right after college most people don’t have a pot to piss in. I don’t know your situation or your account balance but if you can get a place of your own or with a roommate, fuck yeh do that. I believe that every person should feel comfortable wherever they lay their head. Always. That’s your space; where you come to relax and let go and seek some solitude and peace. You can’t get any of that if you can’t even trust who you live with. Even if you have to stick it out a little bit with your family as you stack your $$$, do that. It’ll be worth it when you get the heck out of there.